Honestly, I don't know which is worse.
My first reaction is that weddings are (at least, should be) joyous occasions; and funerals are sad events.
After what these tired old eyes have seen over the years, I now see both weddings and funerals as downers.
In both, you have jealousies, pride, control issues, hurt feelings over the proper "pecking order" of attendees, etc, etc.
At both, things of a hurtful nature are said that cannot be taken back.
At both, large sums of money are often spent because of guilt or expectations of others.
When Cindy and I were planning on being married, we discussed where we should be married, when, whom to invite, etc. After much discussion, we decided there would be too many hurt feelings over one petty thing or another. Trying to please everyone was not gonna work---and all we really wanted was to be married. We opted for a $25 wedding at the county courthose with no one else in attendance but the court judge. We wouldn't trade that for the world.
And when we check out of this life, we will be cremated and our ashes buried together. Ashes to ashes, dust to dust. An inexpensive memorial service would be nice if the relatives wish. It's up to them.
What do you think?