Saturday, September 11, 2010

One of My Most Important Lessons...




I remember it like it was yesterday. And, even though the year was 1956, and I was 12 years old at the time, every detail is etched into my brain. That's how it is with important lessons in life---when you really learn them, they stay with you.

My dad decided that since I was now 12 and well on my way to "becoming a man", as he put it, it was time I began to take some responsibility around the house. How would I like to help a little with the yard work?

Yes, my heart leapt at the thought. I pictured myself pushing the lawn mower. That would certainly announce to the neighborhood that I had arrived as a man. "Well, no", he said---he thought I should start out with the hand clippers and learn how to trim the grass growing beside the fence and around the sides of the house. Once I showed him I could do that job, he would see to it that I got my chance with the mighty lawn mower.

This, of course, was not what I had in mind, but it was a beginning, so I agreed to take the unglamorous responsibility of trimming the unsightly grass by the fence and the house. My dad told me I was responsible for completing the chore each week before Sunday.

Well, it rankled me to know that this task was beneath my considerable abilities. I really should have been given the job of directing the all-important lawn mower. I began to procrastinate. On Thursday, the weather was good and it was a perfect time to do my trimming chore, but I thought it best to put it off until Friday.

On Friday, it was a great time to accomplish the one-hour job, but I reasoned that Saturday would also be a good day for it. Saturday was a glorious day, but my friends were calling me to play baseball with them. In short, I procrastinated my way through the time I was supposed to have the task finished.

On Sunday after church, my dad inquired if I had done the job I had agreed to do.

"No sir", I said.

"Why not?" he calmly asked.

"I guess I forgot", I lied, not wanting to admit that I had simply put it off indefinitely.

"Son", he said, "I want you to remember this all your life---don't ever agree to do something and then not do it". Then, in a stern voice, he continued, "Now get out there and do the work you were supposed to already have done."

"But dad", I responded, "I can't do it now---it's raining".

"I'm only going to tell you this once more," he replied. "Get out there and do your work."

So, there I was, on a rainy Sunday afternoon in Houston, soaking wet, sitting on soggy ground, clipping grass beside the fence, silently cursing my father's harshness and my mother's lack of intervention.

I finished the job in about an hour, and I came inside to change clothes. My mom said the neighbors had called and wanted to know if she was aware of the fact that Clinton was outside doing yard work in the rain. She said she told them, "Yes, we are aware of that. Clinton is being taught an important lesson in life."

It is a lesson that has stayed with me. I sure glad I had great parents. And, now that I'm much older, I can report that the lawn mower is much more appealing when you are 12 than when you are 62.

Friday, September 10, 2010

Simple Things We Take For Granted


At 3:00 this morning I was lying in bed wishing I could go back to sleep when --- for some unknown reason --- I began thinking of all the products I take for granted, but which have made my life so much better. Most of us don't even think twice about the wonder of these things when we use them. Most of them are very simple and inexpensive. What are some products you think are simple and very useful in your life?

---Petroleum Jelly. Discovered in 1859, this balm has a multitude of practical uses, from cosmetics, skin moisturizing, and scores of other applications.

---Baking Soda. First produced in 1791, baking soda has many medical uses. In addition it is an effective fire retardant, odor absorber, cleansing agent, and has many personal hygiene applications.

---Aspirin. First prepared in 1853, aspirin has dozens of medical uses, including thr treatment of headaches, pain, and prevention of heart attacks and strokes.

---Crock Pot. Easy, slow, moist, thorough cooking of meats, vegetables, soups, etc. And can be left unattended all day long. If I didn't have Cindy, all that stands between me and starvation is this simple gadget.

---Dental Floss. Dentists say this simple thread saves more teeth than a toothbrush. Floss only those teeth you wish to keep.

---GPS Units. Say goodbye to maps. Program it and go.

---Cell Phones. Say goodbye to searching for a phone booth. You can even say goodbye to house phones and land lines. A Godsend in emergencies. Question: Can a woman drive a car without a cellphone stuck in her ear?

---Ice Makers. Say adios to the days of filling ice trays over and over.

---WORD Program on Computer. Do your work without the problems of correcting mistakes associated with typewriters or longhand.

---Blood Pressure Monitor. Stay at home and in 40 seconds you have an accurate reading. No doctor's office, no stethoscopes, no manual sphygmomanometers, no fire stations.


What are some of your simple, favorite things?

Thursday, September 9, 2010

Weeping Spirits....


I have been troubled recently by the thought of a loved one. A dear friend of many years confided in me that she has been verbally abused at home by her husband.

About all I could do was listen when she told me all she cared to divulge. She said she was reaching a "breaking point" after a number of years of marriage. Of course, there is a child involved, and the child has been affected by the turmoil in the home, as children in such environments always are. There is acting out through misbehavior in various ways.

Apparently, she has confided in a few friends after it became too much to bear alone.

She asked for my advice. All I could do was draw on my own life experience, as I am in no way a counselor of law or psychology.

I urged her to see a divorce attorney so that she could be advised of her options. Knowledge is power. I urged her to do exactly what the attorney tells her to do.

She said her husband had threatened to kill her if she tried to divorce him, and she said she is afraid of him.

I advised her to begin keeping a record of the abuses.

That was all I could do for this wonderful friend. That, and listen and pray---which I am doing.

At the end of the day, we all must decide for ourselves what kind of life we will live. I know that carving out a new life takes guts. I pray she can salvage the life she wants for her child and for herself.

The above painting is titled "Weeping Spirit", and was painted by my daughter, Debbie.

Tuesday, September 7, 2010

Soothing Rain...


There is something about rain that soothes the senses and cleanses the soul. After 8 months of little rainfall in 2010, today the heavens opened and God began washing us clean, in a literal way.

I have come to know through week after week, month after month of lack of precipitation, my psyche becomes damaged, always yearning for the cool balm of cascading silver raindrops.

Then, when dark clouds form, and occasional lightning streaks the sky, and the low bellow of thunder rolls across the Texas plain, and the pitter-patter of the tips of the droplets is heard, I am transfixed as I melt into my easy chair and just gaze steadily into the gray outdoors as I am comforted and renewed.

Sunday, September 5, 2010

THE FROG BLOG




He first came into my consciousness when I was just a little tyke. I was so young when I first met him that I can't recall the exact first meeting. All I know is he was always there---and still is.

I was born in Chicago in 1944. And, since my dad was off to north Africa to help Uncle Sam win a war, I lived with my grandparents and mom in the Windy City for a couple of years until he could get back home.

Rolling around on my grandparents' floor at that early age is where I met this magical spirit. It was his job to sit on the floor all day and make sure the door to the bathroom stayed open. I loved playing with him.

To a very small child like me at the time, he was BIG and green and heavy.

Over the years, whenever I would visit my grandparents, the BIG green heavy frog was there, guarding the doorway and somehow protecting my beloved grandparents from all harm.

I never gave this marvelous frog a name.

When my grandparents went on to glory, I inherited this special friend. He stands today at the door of my office. And every time I glance down at him I am reminded of my wonderful childhood and grandparents.

Friday, September 3, 2010

My Ten favorite Things (Plus 1)






















I got to thinkin' about my interests and the things in my life that are most important. I was very surprised that I have so many likes. Before I started, I assumed that maybe I would have a list of perhaps 6 or 7. In fact, I could have easily listed at least twenty---things that are not listed here might also include good movies, fishing, football, walking, gardening, and so on.

Here is the best I could do to keep the list a reasonable length for this blog:

1. The Bible. I cannot imagine a more truly incredible book. The stories and messages are timeless. Who needs contemporary fiction when you can read true, inspirational, teaching scripture?

2. Cindy. I don't know what I'd do without her. God's gift to me when I needed her so badly.

3. My guitars. I have three---all with different strengths and personalities. Which one I play at any given time is a reflection of my mood. What wonderful friends to have on a cold and lonely night.

4. Poetry. Little else can match expertly crafted verses of prancing rhyme, with subtle meaning running throughout.

5. Dogs. One of the truly special gifts to mankind from our Creator.

6. Baseball. Nuanced, historic, full of power, speed, defense, strategy, humiliation and heroism---America's pastime.

7. Friends. Can't live without 'em.

8. Family. Refer to 7 (above).

9. Vacations. How blessed I have been to have had a mom & dad who always took the family on vacations. And how blessed I have been to have been able to continue that tradition with my own family. Oh, the things I have done! And oh, the things I have seen!

10. Food and drink. God's blessings are endless.

Plus 1. Guns. America's tradition lives on, protection and salvation in the hands of responsible, accomplished marksmen; destruction and senseless death in the hands of the lawless and irresponsible.

Thursday, September 2, 2010

The Rat


I walked out to my pool early one fine morning several years ago to conduct my daily cleaning, chlorinating, filling, etc. I stood by the pool and began to scan the depths for any litter such as leaves, twigs or other debris.

Into my focus emerged a dark blob at the deep end. Peering into the depths in the early dawn, I could barely make out the identity of the submerged object resting on the bottom---a rat.

As I stared at the deceased creature, I began to wonder how it had happened to end up resting at the bottom of a swimming pool in Plano, Texas. I pictured the poor rodent scurrying through the night, moving swiftly over dark ground at midnight and all of a sudden being shocked to find himself awash in a large body of unexpected water from which there was no escape.

In my mind's eye I saw the panicked rat struggling to stay afloat, searching for hours for an escape, until finally exhaustion and death claimed a tortured soul.

And, I got to thinkin' that there are a lot of people like that poor rat---in over their heads. It could be drugs or debt or alcohol or marriage problems or job woes or just plain depression, or just about any other circumstance you could name. In over their heads, until they finally drown from their ordeal.

I took a picture of the rodent---it was pretty large and quite hairy (14" from tip of nose to end of tail). Cindy took the photo to work with her to show her co-workers the interesting things we have swimming in our pool. One woman said in all sincereity and with great authority that it looked like a "Norwegian" rat, "which come into the United States from Port Houston, and travel north from Richardson". We haven't stopped laughing.